The Sims 3: FAQs

This lesbian looks disgusted at childbirth
A pregnant teen gives birth in front of her lesbian mothers.


I have decided to compile a page with frequently asked questions about The Sims 3, based upon the types of search results that I am getting since posting my Sims 3 adventures.  I will add more as I find them in my referral stats.  Or of course, if you have a particular question, leave me a comment and I will see what I can do to address it.

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To the person who repeatedly, every day in one week, has searched for “if i download sims 3 on my computer can my wife play the downloaded version on her computer”…no.  Is the short answer.  You need the optical discs to play the game in most cases, so you’ll need two different versions.  EA are pretty hot on piracy, hence you have to register serial numbers for it.

I have also broken down this page into smaller sub-sections, the links are below.

Sims 3: Pregnancy, Babies and Children FAQ

Including the following questions:

  • What are the names of the pregnancy books in The Sims 3?
  • Can sims in sims 3 get pregnant by people they’re not married to?
  • In The Sims 3 can you have a child with another woman?
  • How many times do you have to try for a baby before they become pregnant on The Sims 3?
  • How many days in The Sims 3 does pregnancy last?/How many stages are there to pregnancy in The Sims 3?
  • In The Sims 3, can a pregnant sim marry someone?
  • I have two gay sims, I don’t want them to adopt, how can I make them try for a baby?
  • Can elders get pregnant on The Sims 3?
  • Can teenagers get pregnant in the sims 3?
  • Where can sims give birth in The Sims 3?
  • Can you have more than one child on The Sims 3
  • On The Sims 3 can you leave children home alone?
  • On The Sims 3, what do you do once all the children are grown up?
  • On The Sims 3, I have a child whose parents died, what happens to that child?
  • In The Sims 3 will an elder die if she has young children?
  • How do I have multiple births?

Sims 3: Relationships and Households FAQ

Including the following questions:

  • A teenage sim has a boyfriend, she has grown up, he’s still a teen.  I don’t want their relationship to degrade, what can I do?
  • On The Sims 3, what’s this simultaneous boyfriends thing about?
  • In The Sims 3, can you get family to be romantically involved?
  • Can a woman propose to another woman on sims 3?
  • Do you have a sim that won’t move in, or who cannot propose?
  • What happens on The Sims 3 if someone rejects a marriage proposal?
  • How do I set up a wedding on The Sims 3?
  • In The Sims 3, how do you move teenagers out or in with one another?
  • In The Sims 3, how do you move someone into your household?
  • In The Sims 3, how do you move out an entire household?
  • On The Sims 3, if I marry someone with kids, do the kids move in too?
  • On the Sims 3 can I move in/somehow edit a family when someone is in the process of dying?
  • In the Sims 3 if you merge households will the surnames change?
  • In The Sims 3, can you cause other sims to break up?
  • On The Sims 3 can you break up your own relationship?
  • How can I have more than 8 people in my household?
  • There is someone living in my household and I don’t want them to be, what can I do?

Sims 3: Elders and other elements of life (and death) FAQ

Including the following questions:

  • In The Sims 3 my sim has aged up and I dont like his clothes, what can I do?
  • On the Sims 3 how many outfits can a sim have?
  • In The Sims 3, why do sims go everywhere in a taxi?
  • At what age do elder sims die in The sims 3?
  • How can you kill off sims?

Sims 3: Oddities and weird stuff FAQ

Including the following questions:

  • Why did my young adult sim drop dead on sims 3?
  • When do you get the opportunity to bring a sim back from the dead in the science career?
  • Why do some families have ghost children?
  • HELP!  My sims cannot interact with one another, what should I do?
  • And now for something completely different…






53 thoughts on “The Sims 3: FAQs”

  1. Just for fun, I arranged for Nick Alto to fall in love with my Sim and have an ongoing affair. In order for Nick to get everything in the divorce and leave Vita with nothing, I proceeded to clear my house and lot of everything. I bought expensive things with my money and put them in my inventory. I left a tiny house with a cheap bed, fridge, and light. Then I got Nick to break up with Vita first, then I got him to go steady with my Sim. Then I saved the game and proposed marriage. Then we held a private wedding. The option came up to deal with the household. I went to the mansion with Nick and Holly, and moved Vita into the slum. It was a riot. Sims were able to gossip about Vita for quite some time.

    I learned how to do that from trial and error. First I tried to leave Vita at an empty place with four walls and a door. The game insisted that a Sim can only be moved to a house with a fridge. It was an interesting experiment, so I just thought I’d share.

  2. can someone please help, my sims lifetime thing is gold digger, so i want to make nick alto to fall in love with her. but how do i go about this, it aways comes up nick is feeling awkard, or my sim is being inapproitate. even though her traits are flirty and charamsic which i thought helped. in my game it says nick is divorced.

    1. Hi Emma,

      Yeah, those traits are supposed to help, I think particularly the charismatic one. It could be that that Nick Alto is unflirty and more of a loner than the sim you’re trying to put him with. Been there, done that and it’s very difficult to get it to work. Having just looked up the Alto family I see that Nick might have the Evil or mean sprited trait – that can be difficult to get sims together with, especially if the other one doesn’t have it and is simply too nice.

      Can you raise your sim’s charisma skill points more? That’s certainly worth trying, as is finding things that don’t leave Alto feeling awkward and repeating those for a while until the relationship goes up. However, if you repeat actions too much it makes things go south pretty quickly, so you need to alternate things that work.

      Remember to make sure that he feels comfortable (sitting down, eating, using the bathroom, isn’t too bored), regardless of whether it’s at your other sim’s house or if they’ve gone out for a date.

      Also if you’re really desperate, you can try looking online to see if there are any hacks/cheats/objects available to make people fall in love. Kind of takes the fun out of it, but that depends what you’re trying to achieve.

      Best of luck 🙂

    1. Under the main options for the game I believe you can turn off “Story Progression”, which should stop that. Now, I know it didn’t work in the original unpatched game but if you’re relatively up to date then it should.

      Thanks for commenting 🙂

  3. its me again lol i am getting the following message on sims 3 late night a serious error has occurred while loading my family.

    it wont let me play on my family! what do i dooo please help

  4. i bought a pregnancy book for my pregnant sim, and it’s nowhere to be found.. it’s not even in my inventory.. please help me.

  5. Hey all.. can anybody out there help me out? See, I had gotten this sim to move in with my sim. The other sim had a child that I did not know about at the time, and after moving in (the child did not appear in the merge households menu), I realized and wanted this baby back. The baby is currently living with somebody us, and I CANNOT get this baby back. Ive tried EVERYTHING.

    ps.. im on the xbox360 version

  6. My firend has all of the sims and just got sims 3. It looks really fun so I want to get it.
    I really want the sims 3 (which I dont have yet) but do I have to get sims 1 and 2 first before I download the sims 3 or does it not matter??? Please help!
    Thank you!

  7. Now I have another stupid question. DO I need the sims 3 before I get any of the other stuff? Ex: pets,outdoor living, World adventure…ect.

    1. Hi Annie 🙂

      Yes, to get any of the expansion packs you do need the base game, ie The Sims 3. I’m not sure if that’s the case for the xBox 360 version – I haven’t plunged into that one yet, though am tempted to while my PC isn’t working. But yes, just by getting The Sims 3 you learn a lot about it, so it’s good way to start before adding extra features with the expansion packs.

      Happy simming 😀

  8. So I got the sims 3 and every time I try to play it it says something like your video card does not appear to support Shader Modle 2 please upgrade your card. Do you know what its trying to tell me and how can I upgrade my card??

    1. Annie, that’s a difficult one. I’ve never come across it, but if you could let us know the rest of the specs of your computer, that might help. Stuff like Processor and RAM, and preferably the model of the graphics card. To me, it sounds like you have a rather aged graphics card, but I could be wrong. 🙂

  9. I have the sims 3 and I’ve been trying for several time to get my female sim pregnant but nothing works. I even bought the fertility treatment to both of my sims and nothing. This thing happened last week too, but I didn’t have the fertility treatment then. So I deleted that family and made a new one which I’m currently playing with and still nothing. I had the game reinstalled on my computer a lot of times before and it always worked to have a baby from the first try. What can I do?

    1. Gabbi – sometimes it can take ages. I’ve had sims try for sim week after sim week and nothing has happened. However, I would make sure that you don’t have any mods or patches that might be causing a problem. Also, that there’s enough room on the lot 🙂

      1. Hi, I was just reading through and I was wondering make sure you are at home when you are trying for a baby. So buy a house and invite the guy over and have a baby there.

  10. There is enough room, my family has only four members. As for the mods, I have some poses, a pose player and a mod called NRaas Master Controller. Is any of these the reason that my female sim is not getting pregnant?

    1. Gabbi – I’m under the impression that the NRaas Master Controller does do something with pregnancy/babies, so might be a problem. You can try removing it for a while and seeing if that makes any difference 🙂

  11. As I promised Clarice, here I am with the result. After I tried many times, my cousin decided to help me and give it a try too. And it worked from her first try. Thank you for your advices. I removed the NRas Master Controller and I didn’t put it back in the game, not even after the female sim got pregnant.

  12. Hi:) How can I move people out WITH money? I have a family and the daughter turned into a young adult, got married, and had a child. They all still live on the same lot and there’s 8 people on it now but I want the mother to have more kids (she wants 5 but currently has 4.) My computer that I use to play Sims 3 doesn’t have internet because it never reads internet cards. I’m wondering how to move out the daughter and her family without having 0 simoleons? Also, the mother keeps having boys and I want a baby girl, is there ANY way possible I can make that happen?

  13. i need help! so my sims 3 pets game it installed it but when i click the little play buttion it freez’is and its makeing my normal sims 3 game do the same and the sims 3 game didint do that befor whats wrong with it and what should i do?

    1. I had that when I downloaded an extention pack. Sadly, like she said, you do have to uninstalkl ALL the games you have and reinstall the sims3. I tried again to reinstall the extention pack but it didnt work for e. Feel free to have a go though!

  14. Hi Clarice. My sim is in a relationship with a guy who is in a relationship with some other female sim. I can’t seem to find her no matter what I do. What do I do??

  15. Hi Clarice. I,ve been trying to get my female sim to fall in love with these random guys I meet at Central Park. But then they just run off.So can you give me some advice on how to get a sim to like me cuz i really wanna get married!

    1. Hi Dylan,

      I also find that sims in the parks run off. I think perhaps the best way is to meet a few of these sims in the parks, and later in the day/the following day have your sim call one or all of them to keep raising the relationship. 🙂

  16. I have a household in my neighborhood that has 4 toddlers living in it…thing is that those toddlers are the only sims living there as in no child, teen, adult, etc. Do you have any idea what could happen to them???

  17. On Sims 3 pets i have a household & my sister has a household.
    She can get on the game & click change active household & Play.
    But it will not allow me to play on mine at all. Whats going on & how do i fix this?
    Or can you only play one house hold at a time till you decide to delete it or your people die
    Please Help Asap. I have had the game for six months & just got a laptop that will actually install the game & Play.

  18. Hi there
    I would just like to inquire something – I only have the sims 3 and the adventures expansion pack – so there is only one neighbor hood – we are 2 people playing from the computer, but we would like if the one plays the other 1 can go and visit the other one – what do we need to do for that to work?

  19. I got my teen pregnant without using anymods then she went into labor but wouldn’t give birth I have pets show time generations hidden springs master suite as my expansion packs. Is there a way to force her into labor without a mod or are there any other ways to get teens pregnant?

    1. I have never tried this so sorry if it doesn’t work but once your SIM is pregnant change her into a young adult and once the baby has come change her back into a teenager

  20. I cant play my Sims. I can just go through making it and choosing my household but when i try playing it, try clicking on items, my sim automatically ride a taxi and it prompts a message “no interactions available”.. what shall i do???? Thanks.

  21. Hi, so you have a guy that your sim likes? Buy a house lot and move in. The ask the guy to marry you- he will then move in with you (its the simplist way to get him to live with you) then become close to the guy r to speed things up have the flirty trait or the family orientated trait and TRY FOR A BABY NOT WOO HOO! It shoudl work. I had this problem. Hope it helps!!

  22. Hiya I have a question, I’m the new leader of the free world and I have got donations from all the rich people like Alto Crumplebottom Landgraab etc but can I get donations from each of them again???

  23. I downloaded Sims 3 and Sims Late Night and Origin won’t let me play neither games. It says “unable to connect to EA manager” after I click ‘ok’ I click on the play button and it comes up with a message that says “There’s a problem connecting with the server. Please ensure your internet connection is active. If the problem persists try again later.” My internet is just fine and I have tried in different hours with both the CD in and not in. What do I do so it can work? I spend so much money on this gift and I really want to play this game :c

  24. Hello, i bought the Sims 3 for my old computer which i downloaded the Sims on to (using disk) i got rid of that computer & got a new one. Would it be fine to download the Sims 3 on my new computer using the same disc & code that i downloaded it onto my old computer?

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